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Why don't more students and young people come forward when they see signs of intimate partner violence among their peers?
Melanie Sperling, chief of staff at One Love Foundation, tells that it's largely cultural.
Candles, flowers and stuffed animals line a table during a vigil in Santa Fe, Texas for the victims of the mass shooting on May 18, 2018.
- Ten people, mostly students, were killed when a teenage classmate armed with a shotgun and a revolver opened fire in a Texas high school May 18, 2018, the latest deadly school shooting to hit the United States.
Even worse, actions like gaslighting and threats may be seen as just "part of being a teenager." Rachel De Ladesmo, communications coordinator at Break the Cycle, an organization that aims to build healthy relationships among young people and end abuse, tells that many people first experience abuse before the age of 25, but often adults place many assumptions on how they believe a victim should "look" or "act." In turn, more serious behavior is overlooked until it's too late.
Even if young people do tell an authority figure what's happening, many adults fail to help or offer resources.
"For most school counselors, when they graduated [from grad school], they didn’t have these types of issues [in their curriculum]," he says.
Only about one-third of young people who experienced abuse told someone about it.Khubchandani has done extensive research on administrator preparedness in situations of teen dating violence, and he found in a recent study that over three-quarters of high schools don't have protocols in place to help victims of teen dating violence.Moreover, Khubchandani says 62% of schools don't provide training to administrators and faculty on how to aid these victims in the past two years, and almost two-thirds of school violence prevention policies don't specifically discuss plans for handling situations of intimate partner violence amongst adolescents.Among these details, however, was another key piece of information: Like many mass shooters, the shooter had a history of violence against women.One Stoneman Douglas student, Victoria Olvera, told the Associated Press after the attack that the shooter was allegedly abusive to an ex-girlfriend and fought her new boyfriend prior to the shooting.