Help my sister is dating a loser
Not exactly an upstanding citizen, but after talking with Mary and seeing how enamored she was with Jimmy we looked past most of these flaws and chalked them up to him being a dumb kid when he was young and having a rough family life.
On top of this, however, my other siblings and I began to note the way that Jimmy would interact with Mary and even with us.
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Deadbeat boyfriends are notorious for having a million excuses about why they are constantly broke.
The economy is bad, his former boss was a jerk, he’s waiting for the check to come in, etc.
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We found out that he comes from a very screwed up, trashy family; that both his father and mother kicked him out of their houses and he was living with an aunt and uncle who were on the verge of getting rid of him as well; that he dropped out of school and never got a high school diploma or GED; that he formerly ran a youtube channel in which he put himself in illegal situations driving or otherwise and ran away from the cops...To this day he doesn't have a job and pretty much just smokes pot all day with his cousins and hangs out with my sister when she gets out of work.Later we started to find out other details about Jimmy.We would overhear him telling her he didn't like how she was dressed and ask her to change clothes, or hear him yelling about how he had to be the one to drive her car and many other little things in which he had to be in control.But, when we confronted Mary about it she would brush it off and always make excuses for him.