Does contemporary dating lead to divorce
If you think about Maya, part of the difficulty in her marriage with Veer is that she wanted a lot more than what her mother demanded of her husband. I saw really strong women who had strong ideas of what they wanted.Maya’s mother was sort of okay with financial support; Maya was like, I also need companionship and all of these other things. The men were a bit more lost and a bit more behind.Flock went back to the US after two years, but she remained fascinated by Indian relationships.So, she decided to try and write a portrait of modern-day India through the lens of its marriages. And the desperate attempts they were making to save their marriages, by having children, in at least one instance, were efforts I recognised from my own family.”The book is deeply researched and gives a startlingly intimate account of three middle-class couples struggling to balance tradition and their desires in a changing urban India.Then there was a woman who was a jewellery seller on the train who fell in love with a Nigerian millionaire and they ran away together.
But from what I found, and anecdotally, a lot of the changes were with women, and the book became a lot more about women—the growing agency, independence, and life being different from their mothers’ generation.
It was like they were living in two different worlds.
In general, there’s obviously change in terms of sex, there’s liberalisation, there are more people having affairs, more people watching pornography, more divorce.
Then there’s Shahzad and Sabeena, a Sunni Muslim couple engaged in a long struggle against impotence and the cultural pressure to have children, and Ashok and Parvati, Tamil Brahmin Hindus who have a relatively late arranged marriage after years of trying to find love on their own.
Parvati’s previous relationship with a Christian friend, whom she couldn’t have married, weighs over her new relationship, and depression and the pain of a miscarriage add to the burden.