Dating someone with poor communication skills
“Passive-aggressiveness in relationships is huge,” says Flores.
“It’s not the best way to communicate problems and certainly not the best way to end a relationship.
Suzana Flores, clinical psychologist and author of Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives Check out Bustle's 'Save The Date' and other videos on Facebook and the Bustle app across Apple TV, Roku, and Amazon Fire TV.
What are some key signs that you and your significant other could communicate better? If you're just jabbering away at each other, you may not even be heard. “Not making your questions personable is a sign that you two could communicate better,” says Flores.
Communication is not a competition; you need to learn to work as a team.” —Tina B. Romance"), psychotherapist and author of several books, including Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That Can Ruin Your Marriage“It’s better to bring up concerns and discuss them as they arise than to assume things will clear themselves up.
In the long-term, that leads to pent-up frustration and tension and it makes every new thing seem bigger because there are so many other things behind it.
When you’re in the argument, it helps to remind yourself repeatedly that the person in front of you is important to you and once you say something out loud, you can’t take it back.
Focus on what’s actually important and avoid bringing up all of you past fights at once.” —Shelby Kern, a matchmaker and dating advisor at the Modern Love Club“You have to ask questions, ‘What specifically am I saying that’s getting you upset? The issue may not be that you are disagreeing with them about something, but your tone or body language.
Each of you needs to understand each other in order to figure out what will work for both of you.If someone's being passive-aggressive and you ask what’s wrong and they’re negating it, obviously you have communication issues.”This one doesn't really need describing.You feel that, as long as your partner doesn't understand you, no one does, making you feel all alone. If you can't talk to him or her, talk to your friends (see #7) — in moderation, that is. Yep, we've all been there and done it, whether we just need someone to listen (again) or are avoiding actually going straight to the source (or significant other) or both.“I don’t know any couple that doesn’t need a little work when it comes to healthy communication, respect, positive regard for our partners…Inevitably, we get triggered and we fall into a reactive posture.