Women, she says, tend to have an emotional connection with their lover and are more likely to have an affair because of loneliness.
"Women tend to be more unhappy with the relationship they are in," Fisher says, "while men can be a lot happier in their primary relationship and also cheat.
If you cheat on someone you're dating, you don't love that person. Let me just clarify this for a second, in case you missed it the first time: YOU CANNOT CHEAT ON SOMEONE YOU LOVE. Full disclosure: This article is kind of personal and very preachy. I believe that my past urge to cheat comes from never wanting to commit to a relationship -- but still selfishly wanting all the benefits of having one.
I don't care if people “make mistakes.” I don't care if we're “all human.”Cheating is not a mistake you make when you truly love someone.
But experts say that a large majority of the time, motivations differ by gender, with men searching for more sex or attention and women looking to fill an emotional void.
Nevertheless, Rutgers University biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, author of Why Him? and Why We Love, says men are more likely to cite sexual motivations for infidelity and are less likely to fall in love with an extramarital partner.Allow me to explain why I am undoubtedly correct when I say that you cannot cheat on someone you love. I should probably note that I'm not a saint when it comes to relationships. My ideal situation was having my boyfriend wait for me at home while I was off kissing strangers in sketchy dive bars. I was "in a relationship" only when my boyfriend was present. But every guy who comes my way is positive that will be the guy to make me give up my cheating ways.In an ideal word, my boyfriend would have understood my need to be free. I had to wonder what was so wrong with me that I felt compelled to cheat on my boyfriends. I came to realize that everything had to do with the tepid feelings I had for the men I was dating.By reading this, you agree that none of the experts offering information are liable for actions you or others take.If you feel that counseling could be helpful, please look up counselors available in your area.